Buy of The Month – Little Rooster Alarm Clock 

Not a morning person? Little Rooster is a vibrating alarm clock – or, rather, an alarm clock vibrator – that wakes you up with something to smile about! This is a magic gadget that offers you a ‘snorgasm’ – with 27 silent settings and three intense ‘turbo’ ones! It is shaped so that, while you sleep, you can forget it is there, as it curves comfortably around your pubic mound, with the vibrating part resting against your clitoris and labia. (The ecstasy is all external.) And it stays in place even if you toss and turn at night. The makers are so confident it can bring you some morning glory that they offer a 30-day money back guarantee!

Hi Simone, 

I’ve heard callers on Loveline talk about their younger guys! I’m in my mid 30s and my boyfriend is seven years younger than me (lucky me!). Our sex life is great, but I’ve heard that women reach their sexual peak around my age so I’m worried that in a year or two I’m going to be past it. Is there anything I could do to prolong my peak?

Once a week, eat three cloves of garlic, mixed with horny goats weed from China… I’m sure I’ve read that somewhere. Like most other claims about prolonging your sexual peak, I haven’t seen any convincing evidence that any of them actually work. So I remain sceptical about this kind of thing and anything like it.

The idea of men and women having different peaks arose after Alfred Kinsey, the renowned sexologist, discovered that women in their 30’s had more orgasms than they did at any other time in their lives. Beneath the attention grabbing statistics, there are many factors – other than the physiological – that will have contributed to his findings. One of them is as simple as a woman feeling more confident and content as a thirty something. This may or may not be the case for you. But my point is, your sexuality is unique. It’s made up of physical, emotional and environmental factors. What’s going on for you both personally and in your relationship can change from day to day and week to week. For example, whatever your age, if you suffer some kind of loss or stress, the frequency of how often you want sex will change (and most likely be reduced). Alternatively, if you are having a good run of things, your sex drive could be as rampant as it was in your early 20s.

Of course it’s true that levels of testosterone (dubbed the desire hormone) in women drops as we age. But, testosterone alone doesn’t account for your sex drive. It’s simply one part of the mix. You could always get your levels checked, but no amount of testosterone will make you like (and want to be physically close to) your boyfriend if you’re arguing. The point is, sex isn’t about reaching a mythical peak at age 31 ¾ before everything goes downhill from there for the rest of your life.  Ask any 70 year old who enjoys their sex life (and many do, believe me). So in answer to your question: Are you on your way down or your way up on the (fictitious) chart? Who cares! The only sex rule you need to be following is the one that it sounds like you know already – enjoy it!

Hello Simone!

I’ve been single for a while and I’m missing sex! I don’t want to go out and pick up strange men in bars just for sex, so am thinking about buying a vibrator, but I’m really embarrassed by the thought of using one! Can you reassure me it’s totally normal? And just what do I do with it?! PS Love hearing you on Loveline! 

More women should be like you. In control of their own sex lives. So firstly well done you! Now let’s get you started. First, you’re completely normal in your hesitancy: Choosing your first vibrator can be daunting! The sex market is flooded with them. The single biggest advice as a beginner is to go for something small (ish) in size. When it comes to sex, ladies (like men) shouldn’t be worried about size! In fact, large vibrators can be intimidating. Take a look online at a reputable and well established sex shop, like Eve’s Garden, so you can take your time browsing and educating yourself, without feeling self-conscious.

A lot of women starting out think that a vibrator is just inserted into the vagina. It isn’t. Simply for the reason that most of the nerve endings are outside of your vagina and not in it. That’s not to say you can’t use the vibrator like a dildo and insert it during your solo play. Get the timing right and this can be very pleasurable. The usual technique for using a vibrator is incredibly simple and effective. Rest it against the lips of the vagina, close to the clitoris, varying the speed and movements to your taste until you orgasm.

It’s for this very reason that I strongly recommend you don’t use a vibrator every time you masturbate. Just like Charlotte, who in Sex and The City locked herself away for days with her first ‘Rabbit’, you can all too easily get addicted to a vibrator’s charms. Enjoy it and the pleasure it brings you. But pace yourself. This way, when the real thing comes along, you won’t be disappointed his penis hasn’t got batteries and speed control!