Buy of The Month – Little Rooster Alarm Clock 

Not a morning person? Little Rooster is a vibrating alarm clock – or, rather, an alarm clock vibrator – that wakes you up with something to smile about! This is a magic gadget that offers you a ‘snorgasm’ – with 27 silent settings and three intense ‘turbo’ ones! It is shaped so that, while you sleep, you can forget it is there, as it curves comfortably around your pubic mound, with the vibrating part resting against your clitoris and labia. (The ecstasy is all external.) And it stays in place even if you toss and turn at night. The makers are so confident it can bring you some morning glory that they offer a 30-day money back guarantee!

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for six months but we’ve only just recently started having sex. But he keeps asking me to do things I’m not comfortable doing; he’s asked me to dress up and wants me to do positions that hurt. He’s only really interested in satisfying himself and pays little attention to my needs. I’m beginning to feel used and taken advantage of and no longer want to have go near him physically, although I still love him. What can I do?

How is your boyfriend treating you outside of your sex life? Hearing about his bedroom etiquette, I doubt he’ll be scoring highly on the Boyfriend of the Year scales. The question you need to answer is a tough one (and one that may need a fair amount of soul searching): Just exactly why are you with someone who clearly doesn’t respect you as a woman? You say you love him but precisely which qualities are you referring to? That he’s a selfish lover? That he pressures you into having painful sex? That with his lack of consideration, it seems you could be replaced with a blow up doll? From what you say, your relationship sounds both physically and emotionally abusive. Whilst I do not know many details, what I’m convinced of, is that you’re not loving the person you should be. Yourself. And that’s precisely where you need to focus your attention. When you decide you’re worthy of being treated decently, I’d bet my last dollar you’ll meet someone who will. I’ve counselled so many women just like you who, for various reasons from when they were small, end up in relationships where they ‘love too much’ in the present. As much as I appreciate how hard it is to walk away from a dodgy relationship, it will be worth the short-term headache. Good sex, like a decent relationship is made up of fun, respect and compromise. Remember these are your right. Believe this and you’ll see how you’ll become attracted to a different sort of man. The decent kind.

Celebrity couples: They are good-looking, loved up and know how to work it on the red carpet, but there’s an increasing number of A-listers getting X-rated when it comes to Public Displays of Affection.

For Justin Bieber & girlfriend Selena Gomez, a day at the beach turned into something of a love-in, but they are not alone. Many celebs have become experts in all types of public affection, so here’s a selection of my favorites:

First up and with plenty of cringe factor is The Steamy Smooch: Will Smith & wife Jada Pinkett-Smith were caught on a Jumbotron going for a Hollywood kiss at a basketball game, while J-Lo and Casper Smart have been snapped smooching anywhere and everywhere.

The Passionate Peck: Restrained and reassuring. David Beckham kissed Victoria’s nose after receiving his Order of the British Empire, while President Barack Obama seems to prefer the First Lady’s forehead.

The United Front is a favorite of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes: They love the show of solidarity, but Brad and Angelina manage to pull it off with a few more hands.

The Grope: Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis are offenders. Perhaps they went a bit too far at the MTV awards, thankfully it was tongue-in-cheek (they aren’t even a couple.) Brad Pitt was a little subtler at a film premiere, reaching for Angie’s derriere as they were photographed upfront.

Of course it’s not just celebrities displaying their affection for each other, so how far would you go?

You may find yourself cringing when you see your favorite celebs and their wandering hands, but new research actually shows that when we see people kiss and cuddle in public, it triggers positive emotions in the brain, leaving us with that warm and fuzzy feeling inside.

And if that’s the case, well I say, smooch away!

Hi Simone, 

I’ve heard callers on Loveline talk about their younger guys! I’m in my mid 30s and my boyfriend is seven years younger than me (lucky me!). Our sex life is great, but I’ve heard that women reach their sexual peak around my age so I’m worried that in a year or two I’m going to be past it. Is there anything I could do to prolong my peak?

Once a week, eat three cloves of garlic, mixed with horny goats weed from China… I’m sure I’ve read that somewhere. Like most other claims about prolonging your sexual peak, I haven’t seen any convincing evidence that any of them actually work. So I remain sceptical about this kind of thing and anything like it.

The idea of men and women having different peaks arose after Alfred Kinsey, the renowned sexologist, discovered that women in their 30’s had more orgasms than they did at any other time in their lives. Beneath the attention grabbing statistics, there are many factors – other than the physiological – that will have contributed to his findings. One of them is as simple as a woman feeling more confident and content as a thirty something. This may or may not be the case for you. But my point is, your sexuality is unique. It’s made up of physical, emotional and environmental factors. What’s going on for you both personally and in your relationship can change from day to day and week to week. For example, whatever your age, if you suffer some kind of loss or stress, the frequency of how often you want sex will change (and most likely be reduced). Alternatively, if you are having a good run of things, your sex drive could be as rampant as it was in your early 20s.

Of course it’s true that levels of testosterone (dubbed the desire hormone) in women drops as we age. But, testosterone alone doesn’t account for your sex drive. It’s simply one part of the mix. You could always get your levels checked, but no amount of testosterone will make you like (and want to be physically close to) your boyfriend if you’re arguing. The point is, sex isn’t about reaching a mythical peak at age 31 ¾ before everything goes downhill from there for the rest of your life.  Ask any 70 year old who enjoys their sex life (and many do, believe me). So in answer to your question: Are you on your way down or your way up on the (fictitious) chart? Who cares! The only sex rule you need to be following is the one that it sounds like you know already – enjoy it!